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Why do babies cry?

> Lots of us know that to sleep a baby we have to change it, feed it and even give it a bath. And some times we also have to sing to it and rock it gently in our arms. I’ve seen mothers with their tired crying babies without being able to sleep. The confused mother in a desperate tone of voice would say “Please go to sleep. You are already tired. Just close your eyes and you will be able to sleep.”

> The mother is trying to give an advice that works well for her when she is tired and tries to sleep, after all, it works for her (as it works for all of us).

> So, what is it about the baby’s environment and feelings that we do not understand? Let’s go back to the fetal stage of a baby inside the mother’s womb. I would think babies have the ability to dream. If this is true than babies have the ability to see even with their eyes closed. Just like us when we dream. The difference is that we learned to turn our images in a dark black color screen in order to pacify our visions and let us sleep. A baby in fetal and just born stages does not know how to do this. The baby is in a learning phase to filter the images that don’t let it sleep. In fact the baby can see mucho more than what you could imagine. The baby in time and using the ability to repress feelings and visions will soon turn into a person just like us. This is normal and part of human evolution known today. If the baby was not able to do this, it would eventually get sick and die because sleep is part of our survival.

> Can you imagine the things a baby can see? And that you can learn this rediscovered ability? It is believed that some babies can see the people’s aura. I would even venture to say that they can see celestial beings, angels and other invisible beings invisible to our eyes. Babies cannot distinguish form or colors and is in a process to discriminate that which is of no value or that can bother it. The baby at some time learns to filter, also known as repress.

> All of the above is interesting and sure enough you are asking, “And how does this help me?” The answer is that we are constantly repressing (filtering) feelings, visions and other abilities that today would appear to be mystical magic acts. You have the potential to see beyond what you see in this physical limited world. I will give you an exercise to show you. I’m sure you remember a vivid clear illuminated dream. That means that you can have the same image quality when you close your eyes, anytime. Try it tonight when trying to sleep. It’s almost impossible. If you enjoy doing meditations, try it in one of your sessions. It’s very difficult too. This is because we were very good in learning how to filter in our initial baby stages.

> One warning, it is very difficult to achieve this ability to see like an illuminated person (baby). If in any moment you are able to recapture this ability, you will have passed to the next stage where the challenge will be to turn on or off this talent, or better yet, to live consciously your dreams.

> You have the knowledge. Now you understand the reason why babies have a hard time getting to sleep, it so frustrating for the baby, that the baby finally burst into tears crying.

What Is Said But Not Expressed

> In one of my many conversations, I learned something new. It’s about something that is really not so evident, the “not expressed”. In some cases the not expressed is very clear. Let me give you an example. If a person says “I will go visit some relatives”, then the not expressed phrase would be “I will not be at my home”. Does this sound too obvious? Of course it does. It’s just that some times when applied we are not aware of it.

> I would like to give you another example in an office work environment. A person says “that report has errors”. The not expressed is “the owner of this report did a bad job”. And if the manager is present in this conversation, then the manager has established a judgment to the owner and his immediate thought is “the owner of this report is not doing his job”. The owner of the report thinks “I was just told that I’m an incompetent”. If you observe this dynamic, from one apparent inoffensive phrase we saw various damaging not expressed phrases.

> We can see other examples in other areas of our lives. In a marriage relationship, the man tells his wife “But why did you not buy the econopack?” The not expressed phrase could be “you are a fool, pay attention to what you’re buying!”

> The news media also has this language when reporting news. An example, the news reports “Iran wants to adopt nuclear technology”. The not expressed phrase is “they want to build a nuclear bomb and wants to conquer the world”. Today, the not expressed phrase has already turned into an expressed phrase. But when the news started a few months ago, there were a lot of not expressed phrases.

> In conclusion, pay attention to what you say and pay even more attention to what you don’t say. And I would like to add about what is not expressed; in psychology it is known that in a communication process the expressed words are only 7% of what is being communicated. The tone of voice is 38% and body language is 55%. With this in mind, we are aware that the act of communication is really an artistic ability and it could take a life time to really dominate.

> My learning, I’m aware that there are non-expressed phrases and I should not assume that people with a similar background to mine are aware of their own not expressed phrase.

> By the way, did you know that there is a language used by management and at higher levels that take into account the not expressed? Pay attention and discover it for yourself.

> A fun way to play with this concept is by looking at children and listen to what they are not expressing when the talk.

How to see, The Concept of Contrast.

> How is it that we are able to see? This question is important to answer given that if we know how to answer that question, we will have the knowledge to see that what is unseen to us today.

> A bit confusing, right? That’s right, in our lives we are not told how we got to seeing. We get explained how the eye works and that’s it. I will explain something that not only applies to when you were babies and started to distinguish objects. I will also explain how to continue to see new objects, no matter what your age is.

> The answer to this intriguing question is the use of a “contrast”. Let me explain, in order to see we definitely need our eyes. We also need the ability to distinguish that thing that we have not seen previously. I will give you a couple of examples. Let’s go to the example of the father that is in front of his baby. The baby is very young and it’s obvious that at this moment the baby cannot distinguish objects using past memory. The baby is in this learning process with its fathers help. The father pulls out a red ball and puts it in front of the baby at about a yard away. Leaving the ball in a still position el baby doesn’t know it its existence although it’s in front of its eyes. At that moment, the baby is really watching two thousand figures and colors without knowing that a pattern is present before it. If the father would leave the ball in that position, the baby would never know that a round object with a diameter of 10 inches made of plastic filled with air and with elastic properties that when dropped it bounces. The way the contrast is created is precisely leaving the room relatively static and moving the ball slightly. The baby will find out that the object is different to all other things that are in plain sight by the simple fact that its father was able to create a phenomenon of contrast. This example is simple and sure enough you are thinking it is too obvious.

> Let’s apply this concept to our actual experiences. I hope you have heard about the book “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”. You have lived among men and women for lots of years. And surely before you read the book you already had some idea of the differences between men and women. By using this example, this book is a tool for creating that contrast between genders. And not only this contrast created by this book has helped you to better understand your spouse, but it has also served to create a contrast to better understand yourself.

> Where do I want to prove with all of this? The contrast is an excellent way to learn and to have internal growth. The articles that I write have this effect, to create a contrast to let you see something that was in front of your eyes and you were not able to see clearly.

> If you wish to develop this skill in any given situation where you are eager to learn, go and create a contrast. The contrast could be the opposite extreme of what you already have in your mind. An example could be that “everybody has a fixed image that German soldiers in WWII were wicked and mean and that all German soldiers deserve to die”. Please note that I am not talking about the upper ranks, I am only talking about the first line soldiers (the pawns). The extreme to create a learning experience is “and what if the majority of these people were honest, hard working, obedient, patriots and during this sad war they were only following orders and trying to survive?” With this contrast, you can be aware that there are good and decent people not only in our lives, but surely enough in any army be it friend or foe.

> I have just given you an example that will be difficult to apply to our lives. I will give you the liberty to create your own contrast. You can use examples thinking about your governors, your basketball teams, of those who were judged by you or others, of what you know or were told about your religion, you can even apply this to your work environment.

> As a final note, did you know that the graphics that you do at work for your managers are the tools needed to create a contrast for your boss?