> How many times have we analyzed people like us or even different to ourselves? We do it very frequently without knowing it. Every time we see the news on some type of negative incident, it takes us less than five seconds to start our process of understanding the players of the mentioned event. This event could be from a person climbing a building in a super heroes costume to a multiple killing in some remote town.
> Why do we analyze other people? Well, according to our mental programming, we do it to find options for making those people change. We are in the constant search on how to perfection our neighbor’s life. This is absurd, especially when the person that needs perfection (evolution) is "me". This doesn’t mean we should stop analyzing other people. Quite the contrary, this helps us to have an internal dialogue, so that we have a point of contrast to those things we cannot see ourselves.
> I will give you a simple example. Imagine that you are in a reunion with lots of people. All of a sudden a person with a very bad odor passes near you and you become aware of this. You are immediately reminded internally that odor is important in social events and you start to smell yourself. You try to smell your armpit’s odor and your odor that you create when you talk of air that comes from your interior (Did you know that you exhale an odor when you talk?). You’re not conscious of your odor immediately because you need to create the contrast. In the case of bad breath, people create the contrast by blowing in the palm of their hand in front of their nose. So, how do you create the contrast to those important aspects related to your evolution? This will be your homework.
> I’ve been in support groups for couples where the dynamics are to get your spouse to change. To understand your spouse is not so that you can have this person change to your wish, but to create the contrast of who we are. With this knowledge we are in the possibility to continue with our evolution.
> I want to make this very clear as I’m almost sure you agree but you have not fully seen the great meaning of this. You are currently in an evolution process for longer than you can imagine. Your ideal evolutionary state is that of total tolerance, total forgiveness, total joy, total gratefulness, total service, total pleasure, total love, etc. You could even say that it’s a state of being a Saint. And I want to make it really clear, that is correct. You are already thinking this is extremely difficult to accomplish (I agree).
> I’m going to give you an example of someone close to you that has been able to touch the tip of the iceberg. I’ve seen elderly people with their grandchildren acting in similar ways a Saint would. Can you imagine this attitude, this way of treating your pears, your neighbors, even your enemy? How far are you to achieving this? The road is long and steep. And not because it is long and steep you are thinking of giving up. Your work here is to evolve.
> Final message, may your walk and thoughts take you to your maximum evolutionary stage. And being so, I’m sure there is still more beyond that. It could be said that the path to evolution is infinite. It like the waiting lines you might have experienced at a Disney park, just when you think you are about to arrive to destination, you see that the line just around that corner is longer than you had thought, and even so, you stay in line and you move forward with pleasure (especially when you get to the air conditioned zone in times of hot weather).
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